There are many types of family, not just formed by father and mother. There are hundreds of single parents who deal exclusively for the upbringing and education of their children because the relationship did not work or because there was never a partner. In this case, fears, doubts, problems and decisions are made unilaterally.
However, there are single parents one day remake his life. A new partner fills them with happiness and decide to return to share your life with another person. What enconces with children? How did they take? How do I explain it? How to integrate a new person into the family circle?
How to integrate the new boyfriend of the mother with the children
A friend had a two-year relationship with a boyfriend after breaking with her husband . Her two children accepted him immediately, everything went well, but when the relationship ended, the kids had very bad. Now that she has returned to find someone, their children do not want any relationship with him. Everything is very tense and is desperate because my friend does not know how to achieve a rapprochement between her new boyfriend and her children.
Input we can not think that children react badly to mom’s new boyfriend or girlfriend dad. Every child is different and behaves in a certain way, also often it depends on the approach we do. If the initial reaction is negative , we must put all our love and patience little to get used to the new situation. How?
– Children are very observant and realize our mood without even open our mouths. If you see our happiness , we are happy and we can also convey how good it makes us feel that new person, gradually cease to see him as an intruder.
– Fear is one of the major obstacles in these relations. The children are afraid that this new person will ‘steal’ the love of mom or dad. We must make them understand that everyone has a place, and nobody can ever take away the place they have in our hearts . The words, however, not enough. Devote quality time in which they have a mom or dad to themselves is important.
– They must know that this person has appeared in their lives, it is not intended to take the place of his father or his mother . It will not be the rival of the biological father, will have its own space and place within the family.
– Do not force things , give freedom to boyfriend or girlfriend and children themselves to create their own space in which relationships are important. Especially when it is not the first time that the mother has a boyfriend and children do not want to return to grow fond of someone. It is the end of the lesson of life, throughout our existence appear and disappear people, some were very important and others go unnoticed.